Are you a stay at home mom that gets a little under the weather sometimes? How do you know its more than just stay at home mom blues? You learn the signs of depression!
I have been a stay at home mom since 2012, when my son was a little over a year old. I have spent most of that time depressed. The first year was fantastic, we were on structured schedule with learning activities every day. We got creative and messy, almost ever single day. And then I became depressed, even though I had no idea I was actually depressed. I just chalked how I was feeling up to being home all day with kids and our financial situation. It wasn’t until early 2016 that I decided to talk to someone, because I felt something was off. I was diagnosed with clinical depression.
I am now on medication that I take pretty regularly and I am doing the right things to keep me from getting back to those dark days. Its a never ending journey, and I certainly have those dark days still, but they are happening less and less.
For me, I knew all the signs of depression. I had witnessed it as a child, watching my mom battle her fight with depression. My husband has dealt with it the whole time I’ve known him. But, it is still hard to see it in yourself.
There are a lot of symptoms and signs of depression, not just feeling sad. For me, a lot of it was anger. I was (and sometimes still am) just plain mad all the time. Don’t get me wrong I had a lot of feelings of sadness. Days I would just cry for absolutely no reason. But sadness is not the only sign of depression.
This is what the National Institute of Mental Health says:
- Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood
- Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism
- Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
- Decreased energy or fatigue
- Difficulty sleeping, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
- Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities
- Moving or talking more slowly
- Feeling restless or having trouble sitting still
- Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions
- Appetite and/or weight changes
- Thoughts of death or suicide, or suicide attempts
- Aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems without a clear physical cause and/or that do not ease even with treatment”
Reading that list is a bit scary, if I am being honest here. It pretty much describes me, perfectly. Except for the thoughts of suicide, but I know I am lucky in that sense. Some people get so depressed they truly feel like their family and the world would be a better place with out them.
If you are having thoughts of suicide then please call 1-800-273-8255. There are professionals waiting to help 24 hours a day. Please don’t have any shame in this, it takes a much stronger person to ask for help, than it takes to sit back and do nothing!
“Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions.” This one was huge for me in those darkest of days. When I was deep in the trenches of my depression I literally could not concentrate on anything and I would forget things constantly.
There a so many signs of depression, but the biggest ones for me were the loss of hobby’s and interests and feeling of hopelessness. I stopped making my wreaths and the longer I went without making them the more hopeless I felt. It was a never ending cycle, until I ended it! Once I starting making them again my dark days became even less frequent.
The national institute of mental health stated the signs of depression and described me perfectly, but they missed one. The loss of social interactions. Any time I am feeling real down I become very isolated, and there is no one to blame but myself. So many relationship’s and friendships have dwindled over the years, because I couldn’t get enough energy together to keep any plans. I stop answering my phone or respond to messages. My true friends and family know what’s up and have always been there when I am ready to step out for the evening. Those people are the real MVP’s, but that’s a whole blog post all on its own!
This post is mostly geared towards stay at home mom’s, but I feel its useful information for anyone. If you are a stay at home mom dealing with depression, head over to this post to know you are not alone!
I truly hope this post has taught one person the signs of depression what to look out for. Please, please if you think you are depressed, reach out to someone. Talk to your spouse, talk to your doctor, talk to me! If you ever need someone to just listen or need any advice on how to talk to your spouse or doctor, don’t hesitate to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org!
Remember: you are NOT alone and there is help out there!
Have you had your own battles with depression? What were your signs of depression? Leave a comment, I would love to connect with you!!
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