To the pregnant mom with a toddler: get ready! You are in for one wild ride.
It wasn’t that long ago I was in your shoes. Four years ago on Valentine’s Day I found out I was pregnant with my second child. My son was sixteen months old.
After my son was born my husband and I talked about having another baby when he (my son, not my hubby) was potty trained. So, finding out I was pregnant when my son barely knew how to walk, was terrifying.
Since this is your second pregnancy, you know its no walk in the park. But, take it from someone who went through it, having a little person who never stops around makes it 100 times worse.
Your toddler has no way of comprehending why you cant take him to the park in 101 degree weather because you are 7 months pregnant and you just might die of heat stroke. Okay, not really, but it sure feels like it.
So you will end up spending most of the 9 months it takes to grow a human on the couch watching Finding Nemo for the 300th time.
Towards the end of my pregnancy I had come to the conclusion I was the worst mom ever. And if you are the great mom I believe you to be, you will probably have those thoughts, too.
But, it is simply not true.
Growing a human inside of you is not easy, add in a toddler who cant even open a bag of fruit snacks on his own and you have a recipe for pure exhaustion.
Not to mention the hundred trips to the bathroom you make in a day (to either barf or pee, maybe even both.) You are followed by that little person, because heaven forbid you are more than 2 feet from him.
Remember your first pregnancy when you couldn’t keep your eyes open, not even for food? Yeah that will be worse this time. (Cause you are growing a person and chasing one all day.) Not only will the exhaustion be worse, but you have no choice to keep those eyes open. If ya close them, even for a second, that toddler will have colored all over the walls. (Parenting tip: always buy washable markers, crayons, etc. Always.)
So, on those days where you just have to take a nap, you will put on Finding Nemo and put a tablet on the kids lap. It will happen, even if you don’t want it to. And you know what? Its okay!!
Lets be real here for a minute. It is not likely that your toddler will remember much of this time in his life.
All you can do is your best.
Don’t get me wrong, you will have some good days, too. Days where you actually have some energy so you take your toddler to the museum, or the zoo. You will have fun, and those memories are the one’s that you will think of first.
My biggest piece of advice to the pregnant mom with a toddler: do your best to enjoy your toddler.
After all, these are the last days of him being an only child. So, enjoy the good days and the bad ones. When your to damn tired to peel yourself from the couch, enjoy the cuddles your baby is willing to give. (Trust me, with a new sibling or not, those cuddles aren’t so easily given from him for much longer.)
When your toddler wants you to get on the floor to play with monster trucks, do your best to do it.
In a few short months that new baby will be here and it is hard to figure out ways to divide your attention. (That’s a whole other blog post thought.) So, even when its to tiring or your to sick, try to remember to enjoy your toddler now. Before its hard to even find time to pee, let alone give quality attention to either kid.
I will end this post for the pregnant mom with a toddler with this: having your kids close in age is so worth it.
They will become best friends and they will always have someone to play with.
Watching my kids grow up together and the love they have for each other has been the biggest blessing of my life.
If you’d like to get to know my kids better you can do so by clicking here.
Have any tips for the pregnant mom with a toddler? Share in the comments below!
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